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Re: Insecurities of Looping
truer words never written, thanks Rick...
On May 16, 2012, at 1:37 PM, Rick Walker wrote:
> We must be as open to praise as we are to criticism. When you recieve
> applause and compliments, allow it sink in.
> I'd also like to add that people with 'less than' behavior frequently
> fear that they will be perceived as being
> 'grandiose' if they allow themselves to soak in applause and
> compliments. I fall into this category a lot myself.
> If someone gushes about me in public, it makes me feel so weird and
> uncomfortable. If people persist, I even
> feel angry about it because I"m so uncomfortable.
> But I've seen many a performer hurt the obvious affectionate response of
> an audience because they are uncomfortable
> and deflect the praise the crowd gives them.
> But I heard once that low self esteem manifests in two types of behavior:
> 'grandiosity' and 'less than' behavior.
> The older I get, the more I see the wisdom in this.
> Because of this, I completely concur with Kevin's advice, even if
> applause or compliments make you nervous.
> And, if you think of it, low self esteem was created when we were
> children over a long period of time
> and through a lot of, usually small, unhealthy interactions with people
> who were important to you. Self esteem actually
> can be built over a long period of time, but we have to work hard to
> let the good in and we have
> to work at it over time because it never feels comfortable.
> rick walker