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Re: Insecurities of Looping

My momma always said..  receive feedback with grace...  especially the 
positive feedback.  
Its not easy...  but Mom was right.  The giver of positive feedback 
deserves our grace even if we feel "less than" about a performance. 

Love you Mom- rest well.


On May 16, 2012, at 10:37 AM, Rick Walker wrote:

> On 5/16/12 6:18 AM, kkissinger@kevinkissinger.com wrote:
>> We must be as open to praise as we are to criticism.  When you recieve 
>> applause and compliments, allow it sink in. 
> I'd also like to add that people with 'less than' behavior frequently 
> fear that they will be perceived as being
> 'grandiose' if they allow themselves to soak in applause and 
> compliments.    I fall into this category a lot myself.
> If someone gushes about me in public, it makes me feel so weird and 
> uncomfortable.  If people persist, I even
> feel angry about it because I"m so uncomfortable.
> But I've seen many a performer hurt the obvious affectionate response of 
> an audience because they are uncomfortable
> and deflect the praise the crowd gives them.
> But I heard once that low self esteem manifests in two types of behavior:
> 'grandiosity' and 'less than' behavior.
> The older I get, the more I see the wisdom in this.
> Because of this,  I completely concur with Kevin's advice,  even if 
> applause or compliments make you nervous.
> And, if you think of it,  low self esteem was created when we were 
> children over a long period of time
> and through a lot of, usually small, unhealthy interactions with people 
> who were important to you.   Self esteem actually
> can be built over a long period of time,  but we have to work hard to 
> let the good in and we have
> to work at it over time because it never feels comfortable.
> rick walker