Re: Re: Insecurities of Looping

[Rick Walker <looppool@cruzio.com>]

On 5/16/12 6:18 AM, kkissinger@kevinkissinger.com wrote:
> We must be as open to praise as we are to criticism.  When you recieve 
> applause and compliments, allow it sink in. 
I'd also like to add that people with 'less than' behavior frequently 
fear that they will be perceived as being
'grandiose' if they allow themselves to soak in applause and 
compliments.    I fall into this category a lot myself.
If someone gushes about me in public, it makes me feel so weird and 
uncomfortable.  If people persist, I even
feel angry about it because I"m so uncomfortable.

But I've seen many a performer hurt the obvious affectionate response of 
an audience because they are uncomfortable
and deflect the praise the crowd gives them.

But I heard once that low self esteem manifests in two types of behavior:
'grandiosity' and 'less than' behavior.

The older I get, the more I see the wisdom in this.
Because of this,  I completely concur with Kevin's advice,  even if 
applause or compliments make you nervous.

And, if you think of it,  low self esteem was created when we were 
children over a long period of time
and through a lot of, usually small, unhealthy interactions with people 
who were important to you.   Self esteem actually
can be built over a long period of time,  but we have to work hard to 
let the good in and we have
to work at it over time because it never feels comfortable.

rick walker