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truer words never written, thanks Rick... On May 16, 2012, at 1:37 PM, Rick Walker wrote: >> > We must be as open to praise as we are to criticism. When you recieve > applause and compliments, allow it sink in. > I'd also like to add that people with 'less than' behavior frequently > fear that they will be perceived as being > 'grandiose' if they allow themselves to soak in applause and > compliments. I fall into this category a lot myself. > If someone gushes about me in public, it makes me feel so weird and > uncomfortable. If people persist, I even > feel angry about it because I"m so uncomfortable. > > But I've seen many a performer hurt the obvious affectionate response of > an audience because they are uncomfortable > and deflect the praise the crowd gives them. > > But I heard once that low self esteem manifests in two types of behavior: > 'grandiosity' and 'less than' behavior. > > The older I get, the more I see the wisdom in this. > Because of this, I completely concur with Kevin's advice, even if > applause or compliments make you nervous. > > And, if you think of it, low self esteem was created when we were > children over a long period of time > and through a lot of, usually small, unhealthy interactions with people > who were important to you. Self esteem actually > can be built over a long period of time, but we have to work hard to > let the good in and we have > to work at it over time because it never feels comfortable. > > rick walker >